利他主义是一件有趣的事情。我还没有读过麦克法夸尔的书，也没有读过其他有关这个话题的书，我只能说，利他主义有时会让我想起那些花太多时间在镜子前打扮自己、欣赏自己的人。关心朋友和家人的幸福是一回事:这是人类对那些对我们自身身份和人类意义至关重要的人的义务。关注或过度关注陌生人的福祉似乎是危险的异常行为;可能会走向自我毁灭。除非你是教皇，否则这个站是一种特别罕见的疯狂。现在，我想这种疯狂的利他主义是有一些好处的。有些人会得到认可，是的，甚至是金钱，当他们拥护和追求慈善事业时。通常，慈善家受到最高的尊重，当然，这让他们对他们的事业和自己感觉很好。因此，利他主义和慈善之间的关系似乎很密切。
我们确实喜欢对自己和自己所做的事情感觉良好。快乐与痛苦。自尊可以是一种自然的存在状态，也可以是通过“无私的利他行为”人为获得的。在这两种情况下，动机的基础几乎都是自私的。
Neuman

It seems like most of the discussion here was of altruists who took a different path to happiness not those who sacrificed happiness for altruistic reasons. Am I missing the point? Let me comeback to this. I will read this book and check back here.
士兵或特蕾莎修女与年收入25万美元、生活入不敷出的夫妇属于不同的类别。我得考虑一下。不知道是这部剧误导了我，还是我误导了。我认为两者都有可能。

Rawls's notion of the maximin comes to mind, obviating the question by maximizing the well-being of all. I find obsessives highly annoying (activists, religionists and the like). It is hard to see how the rich of today can live up to their means anyway, it is no more impressive that they spend it on philanthropy than on a lavish lifestyle. But the lower-class obsessives would be unnecessary if the resources available were distributed fairly. But fanaticism is inauthentic in any context.

In the vein of good feelings, my recent essay on the notion of infinity might give some insight. I will share some excerpts, if I may: I said that people feel better about things they can qualify or quantify, The evolution and continuing sophistication of human consciousness gives rise to an expanding need for comfort in this regard, hence, the growing emphasis on qualitative and quantitative measures from amoebas to zygotes...A little later in the piece, I said I had no quarrel with any of that. But, unless you love the heat of philosophy, the thrill of agony and the victory of defeat, you may as well cross infinity off your list, be that 'bucket' or otherwise. It is not an achievement. Nor a destination. Neither you nor I nor anyone else will ever get there...there is no 'there' to get to....Well these are only small snippets of a rather short writing. The key notion here is the comfort factor and our NEED-TO-KNOW, even when there is nothing to do with that knowledge. A little different from my 2016 observations---but, I have had some time to adjust, and that has made ME feel better...